Being an Intefaith Minister and Celebrant, means, amid other things, that I usually have to deal with death and its meaning for our lives. Death is intertwined with our human experience and by being so, it brings us together as a community, as a family, breaking away borders and differences. In Death we find our sameness, our understanding, compassion, empathy for our fellow human beings. In Death, every tear is shared, every desire for warmth and consolation becomes an international language. For those who have been visited by Death, no one needs to translate the sorrow, the anger, the sense of the world standing still and ourselves being pushed out of it, at least for some time. Yet, amid the darkness and despair, Death’s universality can be a gift that brings us together; that inspires us to serve each other, and stand by each other, and hold each other, in spite past stories and misunderstandings. When we communicate our experience about of Death, we learn that pain eventually subsides and gives way to a sweet nostalgia. And given the chance, Death can heal, like nothing else can, broken ties and sore relationships.
Our time with each other is limited, thus priceless. Death remind us that the best moment for that hug, that kiss, those words, is now. That we shoul
d never take our loved ones for granted and put them in the back burner of life. We should strive instead for an existence lived purposely and intensively, which includes working for harmonic relationships. Each shared moment is precious. And each time we forfeit the chance to bring peace, joy, comprehension and love to a relationship, we waste an opportunity which may never come again.
We never lose those whom we love. Whatever our ideas of the afterlife may be, the truth is that as long as we are on this side of Death, is within us that we can commune with our dear ones. They live are with us in many different ways: in our memories, in our emotions, in our genes, in their actions and the actions we carry out in their name. They are in the lessons they gave us, through word or example. They are in the power of our imagination, where we can walk hand in hand with them and listen to their counsel. They are in every happy moment we have, in which we lovingly bring them to mind for a few seconds. They are in the changes they inspire in us. And they are in our love, in that space in our heart where we keep everything that is beautiful and sacred. And so Death makes us home for Love, garden and paradise for our loved ones and living vessel for the essence of those who, in us, live forever.
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